10 Quick Questions to Separate Good Guys vs Bad Boys
Good guys vs bad boys, the rival we have seen in many movies, love songs, and in real life. Sometimes, they can look similar so how do we know when it’s good guys vs bad boys? Well, here are a few quick questions to ask yourself when exploring your options. Almost all these questions have come through my personal dating experiences. Unfortunately, I have had quite a few experiences but I hope my bad experiences will help you avoid them.
For more help in dealing with bad boys and the effect of bad boy traits, click HERE: “Bad Boy Traits: 7 Signs to Look Out For.”
I pray you will take time and go over these questions and answer them honestly. If you feel like you are having a difficult time answering these questions to help you decipher good guys vs bad boys honestly or you feel like you are justifying your answers, then I would pray for the Lord’s help and ask people you trust who are Godly, safe, and healthy to help you answer them.
10 Quick Questions to Separate Good Guys vs Bad Boys:
1) How does he treat the women in his life (including his sister!!)?
You may have heard this before but it is so true. This is a great glimpse into the future of how he is going to treat you. So take notes! If you like what you see, that’s great. If you don’t, I would seriously think about moving on because if you are not careful one day that may be your child he’s treating like that.
2) Does he keep his hands to himself? Have you seen him chase girls down in the hallway? Have you witnessed him smack yours or another girl’s butt/other body part? (Sorry…got carried away with the questions).
This is a sure sign that he doesn’t respect women or their boundaries. If he does it to you, I’m pretty sure he does it to other girls while you are not around.
3) Does he pay attention to you when you are talking? Does he look around? Can he remember anything you said?
When a guy is into you, he will pay attention to what you have to say and even better contribute to the conversation. If he’s too busy looking behind you at Little Miss Short Skirt, then that’s a definite red flag.
4) What type of language does he use around you?
Call me old-fashion but a man should never curse or say inappropriate things around a lady. Watching what he says shows that someone raised him right and there is a gentleman inside.
5) Does he have a plan for his future?
Being cute doesn’t pay the bills (unless you are a model); so if you want a future with him make sure he will be able to provide for you and your future family’s needs. If he keeps asking you for money or expecting you to pay for things now while you are dating, you can be sure that this will carry on into marriage. Besides someone who has motivation and goals is definitely attractive. Chilling on the block is cute at 16 but it gets weird at 35.
6) Does he leave you guessing? Does he like to play games (I’m not talking about XBox)?
I hear a lot of girls and women saying, “He doesn’t know what he wants.” I assure you, he does. When a boy likes you, he will say it. If he wants to be your boyfriend or fiancé, nothing is going to stop him from making that happen. So if he is playing games with you, he doesn’t respect you or your feelings and he may never will. Keep it moving!
7) Does he have a lot of girls surrounding him?
Usually this is a sign that he is stringing a few girls around just to stroke his ego. Proceed with caution or not at all!
8) Is he involved in drugs and alcohol?
As much as some people thinks it’s cute (Oh, he’s so gansta!), it won’t be cute when you got cuffs on because you were chilling in his car or home and the police come running through. Save yourself not only heartache but your future as well.
9) How is his spiritual walk?
Now I didn’t ask, “Does he go to church?” A lot of people go to church but their spiritual walk with God is nonexistent. You want someone on your level or higher. If there is an emergency or crisis, believe me you are going to want someone who knows how to pray.
10) Do you see a future with him?
If you don’t, you are just wasting your time and energy on someone who won’t be significant in a couple of months or years. Invest your time in someone who will walk through the different stages of life with you, hand in hand. It’s like the difference between an acquaintance and your best friend. Besides you don’t want to waste really great gift ideas and dates on someone who won’t matter in a few months. Right?
“Remember what you think is best, God may see as you settling for less.”
-Nina D.
Jesus, family, ministry, and lots of coffee! My heart comes from being a young teen girl who didn’t know much and found Jesus in a dark time. My ministry focuses on the heart of God for this generation to make Godly decisions especially in the area of purity. A blog for all ages because God’s Word is eternal and has no age limit!
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