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The Savior Complex: Do you have it?

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The Savior Complex: Do you have it?


There is a funny type of dating called “messianic or missionary” dating. People use this type of dating to either save or be saved by another person. In both situations, people believe they or someone else has the power to do something only God can do and has done. They suffer from “The Savior Complex” and in order to experience God at a deeper, more intimate level, this needs to be corrected. Are you suffering from it?

Savior Complex Symptoms:

-You believe by dating this person they will be the answer to your financial stress, save you from an abusive family, or just family issues in general.

-You have no real interest in the person other than trying to get them to accept Christ.

-You stay in a relationship because you believe they will eventually accept Christ because of you.

-This person becomes your world and everything else gets neglected including your relationship with Christ.

-You feel a sense of power over them.

-Someone has power over you.

Savior Complex Treatment:

Release the relationship immediately. You know a relationship is from God if it is built on the right foundation including trust and honesty.

-Remember who your God is. Humans will fail you. They lack the ability to be perfect and by asking them to is unfair.

Scripture Backing:

Jesus Christ is the same yesterday and today and forever” (Hebrews 13:8).

You shall have no other gods before me” (Exodus 20:3).

“Do not be yoked together with unbelievers. For what do righteousness and wickedness have in common? Or what fellowship can light have with darkness?” (2 Corinthians 6:14).

I will give them an undivided heart and put a new spirit in them; I will remove from them their heart of stone and give them a heart of flesh” (Ezekiel 11:19).

I will give them a heart to know me, that I am the LORD. They will be my people, and I will be their God, for they will return to me with all their heart” (Jeremiah 24:7)

Bottom-line is, it is NOT your job to save someone and it is NOT their job to save you. Only the Lord has the power to bring that person to Christ. Only the Lord, your God, is the Ultimate Provider. Allowing yourself to be in relationship that is not honoring to God, is only asking for trouble and will not give you the desires of your heart.

“Delight yourself in the LORD and he will give you the desires of your heart” (Psalm 37:4).

Baskets of Blessings!


Nina Daugherty

Jesus, family, ministry, and lots of coffee! My heart comes from being a young teen girl who didn't know much and found Jesus in a dark time. My ministry focuses on the heart of God for this generation to make Godly decisions especially in the area of purity. A blog for all ages because God's Word is eternal and has no age limit!



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