Feeling Far From God Because of Sin: 6 Ways on How To Connect With God Again
Updated: February 2, 2019
Feeling far from God because of sin is common amongst Christians, but how do you fix it? There are definitely ways on how to connect with God again and as long as we have breath it’s never too late.
What does it look like when God seems far away?
Ask yourself these questions, Do you feel like God isn’t listening to you anymore? Somehow you no longer feel His presence? Have you ever wondered why?
There will be a moment or moments in your walk with the Lord when you feel like He is far away. It can be due to different reasons. One of the reasons I have found, is when we are involved in sexual sin.
Our bodies are the temple of God.
“Do you not know that your bodies are temples of the Holy Spirit, who is in you, whom you have received from God?” (1 Cor. 6:19)
There will be conflict within us when we are not being obedient to God’s command in this area.
This conflict translates to God feeling far away. However, God’s presence has not changed because He does not change. Its our hearts that have run away.
“I am the LORD, and I do not change (Mal. 3:6)”
We in fact have changed our position while the Lord waits in His.
Our hearts and the deception of the enemy can twist the reality of our circumstances.
So what do we do?
Sometimes when you’ve been sitting in this deception for so long, we desperately need a fresh perspective, a breath of fresh air. Let’s look at it like this, what if we took this time of your life and used it for what its supposed to be used for?
A chance for an honest and deeper relationship with God, a chance for God to help you get to know Him, really know Him (Jer. 9:23-24), a chance to pursue Him as He has pursued you (Psalm 139:1-18), a chance to experience Him in a real way, and a chance for Him to remind you of your worth and His everlasting love for you (Jer. 31:3).
Any relationship that has depth requires time and becomes more significant through trial.
“I love those who love me, and those who seek me diligently find me (Prov. 8:17).
This includes your relationship with God. He is a relational God and because we were created in His image and likeness we are in the relationship business too!
Lets start with truth and then head on to the suggestions and questions.
Truth: He is NOT far away.
There are several scriptures that declare and confirm this truth, “Fear not, for I am with you; be not dismayed, for I am your God; ?I will strengthen you, I will help you, I will uphold you with my righteous right hand (see also Isa. 41:10, also Deut. 31:8, Josh. 1:9, Matt. 28:20, Heb. 4:16). He is there. Yes, even if you made mistakes, even if you still feel like running, even if you feel like you’ve gone too far!
One step in repentance erases a thousand steps of disobedience.
Here are some suggestions and questions to help start the conversation that needs to be had, probably for a long time coming now. These are just some that have helped me, feel free to add on, and make it more personal to you.
I pray it will deal with those wounds and the deception you have sat in for too long. I pray this will be the beginning to a beautiful journey of healing, restoration, new inspiration, and whatever is lacking or has completely been destroyed in your relationship with God.
How do we get to a place of repentance (asking for forgiveness and reestablishing your relationship with Christ)? Let’s take a look.
6 Ways on How To Connect With God Again
1) Set aside personal alone time–
Take real time away from EVERYONE and sit with God. Think and decide on a time, place, and area. It’s hard to hear from Him when we are so busy with life (Psalm 32:6).
So shut off your phone, turn off the TV, and just focus in.
2) Bring your bible and a journal–
Write down any scriptures you find and record this journey as a whole.
Sometimes it’s good to get down on paper what’s been on your mind and nice to look back at how far along you’ve come.
Write it ALL out. Doubts, anger, hurt, whatever comes to mind. It’s ok, he can handle it.
3) Address the questions–
Ask any and every question in your heart. There are some below to help get you started but there may be some you’ve already had. Maybe for a while now.
You are the son or daughter of the Almighty King. We are allowed and welcomed to enter His courts with our questions (John 16:24). He wants them because HE has the answers.
4) Search and wait for the answer–
God speaks to us in many ways. Be on the look out for the answer but make sure it lines up with biblical truth (1 John 4:1).
It can be through dreams, sermons, Godly people in our life, etc.
Whichever way it comes to you, you’ll start to learn how God speaks to you. Start listening and looking for Him.
5) Be patient–
Your answer may come right away or it may take a while. It might take one session or many sessions. Don’t give God a time limit or it will limit your time with God (Psalm 27:13-14).
Also, remember sometimes the answer is simply trusting God. Even if the answer doesn’t come the way you thought it would, 100% answered, or you don’t understand it.
6) Keep going before your God until there is peace–
Sometimes we get the answer we seek and other times all we get is peace. Be okay with the peace (Philip. 4:7). It is a gift from God.
There will always some mystery to Him and His ways. It’s the trust that helps fill in the gaps.
Questions for Spiritual Growth:
1) Are you angry with God?
Is there a deep wound that hasn’t been addressed with God? Why did this person have to die? Why didn’t this relationship work out? Why am I raising this baby by myself?
Is there a question in your heart that you are desperate to know? Is this question causing anger? Why?
Anger tends to be the result of hurt, an open wound. It is the flower and not the root.
2) What do you believe about God?
I asked this question second because sometimes our pain is too real and it can be deafening or desensitizing to the Voice of God. Its better to work out the first question and then come to sit with this one.
WHAT do you believe about God?
Its one thing to say you believe in God but WHAT do you believe about Him? For instance, do you believe Him when He says He loves you? Do you believe He never changes and He Himself is love so because of that His love will never change for you? (I know that is a mouthful..you might want to reread that..loll)
Taking time to LEARN about the attributes of God is putting work into the MOST important relationship of all.
Take a systematic theology class (it teaches you in depth about the many elements of your faith), buy the book and study it on your own, or ask for help in studying it outside of a classroom setting. Sometimes churches will offer this in the form of Sunday school classes.
3) Are your mistakes or the trauma that has happened to you bigger than your God?
It’s not to diminish what has happened to you but rather diminish its power over you.
Really ask yourself these questions. Are the mistakes you’ve made, regardless of how many, too much for God to handle? Is the trauma allowed to still hold you hostage?
Did the power of His death on the cross allow you to life differently?
Whether it’s a big mistake or a whole bunch of mistakes, did His death not cover ALL of them?
Have you accepted Him as your Lord and Savior over ALL these things?
Do you know that your God is bigger than ANY trauma and will help you move on to the next second, minute, day of your life?
“But in all these things we overwhelmingly conquer through Him who loved us. For I am convinced that neither death, nor life, nor angels, nor principalities, nor things present, nor things to come, nor powers, nor height, nor depth, nor any other created thing, will be able to separate us from the love of God, which is in Christ Jesus our Lord” (Rom. 8: 37-39).
What truth can you find in this scripture?
4) Is there anything else you are hanging onto that you can’t seem to let go?
Are there any questions you haven’t addressed?
Sometimes we hold back the hard questions because we may feel like God doesn’t care, we don’t want to make Him angry or be disrespectful, or we don’t know HOW to ask Him the hard questions.
What is a hard question? It could be anything that feels stuck in your spirit. Maybe you want to know why you got raped, maybe you want to know why a breakup had to happen, or maybe you read something in the bible you don’t agree with.
What are these question to you? If you don’t want to go there, why not? Is it too painful? Do you not trust that God has healing for you? This goes back to Question #2. What do you believe about God?
Again, this is just a starting ground to help close the gap between you and God. Make it personal!
I pray this time will be a time of healing, restoration, and peace for you to move forward another day. I pray this will help you step back in the future and the plans He has for you.
“For I know the plans I have for you,” declares the LORD, “plans to prosper you and not to harm you, plans to give you hope and a future” (Jer. 29:11).
I pray the Lord will send you a group of amazing, life speaking, encouraging, and supporting people to help you on this journey of healing but first take time for you and your Creator!
Baskets of Blessings!
Jesus, family, ministry, and lots of coffee! My heart comes from being a young teen girl who didn’t know much and found Jesus in a dark time. My ministry focuses on the heart of God for this generation to make Godly decisions especially in the area of purity. A blog for all ages because God’s Word is eternal and has no age limit!
Bella4 years ago
I’m 14 and I read your blogs all the time. They give me so much encouragement and answer all the questions I have. I pray that you reach so many more people through these amazing blogs! You are such an amazing person and I just wanted to say thank you!
Nina Daugherty4 years ago AUTHOR
Aww love it! Welcome to the family..so blessed you are here!
Jamaiya3 years ago
Okay so I’m 16 years old and im wanting to follow God but I don’t know why like I don’t know my motives like I feel like I’m wanting to follow God because I do t want to go to hell . And then I also want to make God my first priority also and have a bond and intimacy with God. Then there’s times when I feel that I’m doing something wrong because God seems so silent and I kinda be discouraged.
Nina Daugherty3 years ago AUTHOR
Being a Christian is a journey, so you may start with the motivation of “I don’t want to go to hell..” but that doesn’t mean you are going to stay there. Also, when you say God is “silent”, is there a certain reason why you feel that way? Has He not answered a prayer? Do you feel it within yourself like when you are missing someone? First steps to making Him your first priority is to give Him the first fruits of your day, meaning meet Him when you wake up, brush your teeth, get some breakfast, and then set some time with Him..does this help? Thanks for reaching out!
Anonymous3 years ago
I recently got saved, but even though I know that God loves me, I still struggle with believing him. I’m scared that I am going to screw up my relationship with Him so badly that He just gives up. I’m scared that He’s going to leave, just like everybody else. And I don’t know why because He has never given me a reason to think that.
Nina Daugherty3 years ago AUTHOR
Sounds like the enemy is attacking you. Remember to “hold every thought captive” (2 Cor. 10:5) and dive into the Word and His promises which say, “I will never leave you or forsake you” (Deut. 31:6) and say them out loud. Keep going to Him. Don’t ever give up going to Him. Be blessed!
Rini Jongte3 years ago
I am a 15-year old, eldest daughter whose mind is always filled with questions. My mom and dad got married because of me (I hope you know what that means) and to this day, there are certain days on which I feel like I am created by an accident unlike others who are created with love. I used to blame myself on days my parents argue with each other, thinking that I am the cause of their unhappy marriage, which was never meant to happen if my mom hadn’t been pregnant with me. Whenever things don’t turn out in my favor,I used to believe that I am just a fruit of an accident,someone who was never meant to exist in the first place, one who doesn’t deserve the good things in life.But gradually, I have started reaching out to the words of God and have started loving myself for who I am. To whoever is reading this, I beg you to please pray for me so that my faith can grow stronger day by day. Love from Mizoram.
Nina Daugherty6 months ago AUTHOR
My apologies for responding so late, sometimes comments get lost and I don’t get to see them. I pray you are much stronger now from when you left this comment. Please know you are never a mistake regardless of how you came to this world. God knew you before He created you in your mother’s womb and that’s scripture..that means however you got here..the Lord knew you were going to be here whether or not your parents did..praying you have grown stronger in the Lord and now are walking in the knowledge of who God says you are..blessings!
Anonymous2 years ago
Mrs. Daughtry, I’m 15 years old. A lot of the time I feel like I’m not doing enough. I feel as if my sin is too overwhelming. I especially struggle with sloth (specifically with hw) and I know that God sees so I don’t want to disappoint him. Sometimes I’m able to get up but by the next few hours, Ibut the other times I feel like bad spirits are basically pushing me down. I think about God in those moments and it takes a while before I can get up. I’m reading the Bible everyday in the morning and night along with praying and listening to worship music. But how do I defeat that sloth sin?
Nina Daugherty2 years ago AUTHOR
Sounds like you’re in spiritual warfare..meaning you are battling spirits like you have mentioned. I would pray to the Lord and ask Him how you need to battle them, it may not be so much a “sin of sloth” but rather you being tired from the spiritual warfare you are experiencing. Do you have a bible based church you are a part of? If you have a Youth Pastor or a trusted Pastor, let them know what you are going through and they can help you through this process. If you don’t find help there, please let me know and I will suggest another step. Thank you for sharing and reaching out. I pray for protection over you in the Mighty Name of Jesus Christ, amen!
Gregory2 years ago
Thank you Nina,wish you endless blessings,I have got a lesson on how to get back to God when drifted away.
I would like to know the differences between religion and faith.
Nina Daugherty8 months ago AUTHOR
Short answer: The difference between religion and faith as people have come to know it is relationship with the Lord Jesus Christ. It’s not just about following the Lord’s rules but why we do it, and ultimately it should be out of an reverent love for Him. I hope this helps. Blessings!
Diana2 years ago
Nina thank you for your blog God spoke to me through you today! I have a daughter called Nina-Maria. May God bless you
Nina Daugherty8 months ago AUTHOR
That’s so funny because my little sister is named Maria! Beautiful names! Blessings to you!