Pornography Addiction Help: 6 Truths to Help Young Women Addicted to Pornography
Updated November 8, 2022
Pornography addiction help is something usually offered to men but what isn’t talked about enough is the fact that there are young women addicted to pornography as well. When anyone thinks of pornography, more often than not, they associate it with men. There is this deception that women aren’t visual people. Therefore, they don’t deal with the same temptation as men. This is often due to the double standards held when it comes to sex and women.
However, the more experiences I have in counseling young women in the area of sexual purity, the more I see pornography not only being an issue with guys, but for women as well. It can be harder for a woman, especially a young woman, to open up about their temptations or addictions to pornography.
Women deal with the same amount of temptation in the area of pornography and thankfully I am seeing more people realizing that they also need pornography addiction help.
Pornography Addiction Help: 6 Truths to Help Young Women Addicted to Pornography
Truth #1: Pornography is a problem.
The first way in helping yourself or others is to recognize that pornography is a problem. Many people won’t admit that. To them it seems harmless because it’s something being watched and therefore “not real” so there seems to be this disconnect of what it really is.
Pornography creates an image of sex that is twisted, perverted, and way off from the original design God intended.
“Therefore a man shall leave his father and his mother and hold fast to his wife, and they shall become one flesh. And the man and his wife were both naked and were not ashamed.” (Gen. 2:24-25)
Let’s look at the key words in this scripture verse. The word “wife” which is a woman who is under covenant protection through marriage. The word “one” which means one person not many lovers either throughout their life or during a session with your spouse. The two words “not ashamed” because in God’s design for sex, which includes bonding and making babies, there should be no shame in that.
By seeing pornography for what it is in light of the Word of God, is one of the first steps in receiving pornography addiction help. It doesn’t represent any of the things mentioned in scripture of what sex is supposed to be. It has been the devil’s playground for shame, abuse, perversion of all kinds, and we are called to not take part in any of those things.
“Put to death therefore what is earthly in you: sexual immorality, impurity, passion, evil desire, and covetousness, which is idolatry.” (Col. 3:5)
You are essentially bonding yourself with the images and whoever is on the screen, which makes it no different than real life. These images can stay with you for a long time and it will take work to get them out through the power in the Name of Jesus Christ. Again, by seeing pornography for the problem that it is, you can begin to come against it rather than defend it.
Truth #2: Pornography can affect anyone at any age.
When did you first gain access to pornography? I remember being first introduced to pornography around the age of nine or ten. I was sleeping over a family friend’s house and the girl who I was friends with, yes the girl, had access to a channel on her TV that showed pornography. She showed me these shows and we would stay up late watching them. She then would kiss me and touch me in my private areas. This is when pornography took root in my life. I was a little kid!
“But whoever causes one of these little ones who believe in me to sin, it would be better for him to have a great millstone fastened around his neck and to be drowned in the depth of the sea.” (Matt. 18:6)
Knowing when pornography gained access into your life, is a starting point for prayer. If you share a similar story like mine where it affected you as a child, ask the Lord to help you pray because you may not remember or know how to pray. I had to pray to the Lord to help me heal those wounds of being exposed to something I wouldn’t have chosen for myself if I had the control now. I was supposed to be protected and just be a kid. It’s one of the reasons why I don’t allow sleep overs for my children.
Continue to pray to the Lord to seek healing over your mind, body, and spirit until you experience breakthrough and start from how pornography first accessed your life working backwards. This way you can repent and ask forgiveness. Even if it entered at a young age, if you are still engaging in it up to now, then you do need to repent and ask for forgiveness. It may not have been your fault how it entered but it is in your control now if you decide to let it stay.
Allow the Lord to lead you into the process of full healing and restoration.
Truth #3: Pornography destroys relationships.
Part of pornography addiction help is realizing pornography destroys relationships. Pornography introduces multiple partners. It can be difficult to trust anyone in a relationship when their eyes are focused on other people. Whether or not these extra people are on screen, we don’t realize exactly how much it destroys relationships until we step back and look at pornography through the eyes of God.
“The eye is the lamp of the body. So, if your eye is healthy, your whole body will be full of light, but if your eye is bad, your whole body will be full of darkness. If then the light in you is darkness, how great is the darkness!” (Matt. 6:22-23)
This destruction not only happens in relationships where people are being sexually immoral but it happens in marriages where pornography addiction has taken over someone’s life. Unfortunately, too many marriages have been affected by worldly ideas that pornography is okay in marriage or that the covenant of marriage should protect them. Absolutely not! Sin is sin.
Even if we are obeying God in one area doesn’t mean it will cover another area of disobedience.
The realization of how destructive and poisonous pornography is didn’t become evident until I got married.Take note! It wasn’t until I got married! When I became a Christian, I was still involved in relationships that were sexually immoral, and watching pornography. It wasn’t until the Lord had to knock me off my pedestal, you can read more about my testimony HERE, and I entered into my marriage did I see the realities of how destructive pornography is.
Being in a committed Godly relationship showed me the true value of God’s design of intimacy and sex. I didn’t want to share that experience with images on a screen or anyone else. I just wanted my husband.
Truth #4: Pornography can be defeated.
When you are in the midst of your sin, it can seem like there’s no way out and you will NEVER be able to overcome it. This is a lie from the enemy. You can overcome the battle of pornography and as you seek pornography addiction help, know that ultimately the war has been won through the death of Jesus Christ. It cannot keep hold of you because of Who Jesus Christ is in our lives and what He did on the cross giving us full authority to defeat the enemy.
“Truly, I say to you, whatever you bind on earth shall be bound in heaven, and whatever you loose on earth shall be loosed in heaven.” (Matt. 18:18)
You can bind up this stronghold in your life and send it to the feet of Jesus Christ to be judged and annihilated for all eternity. Make the decision today to stop and start walking in the freedom Jesus Christ died to give you. It may seem like a big giant you can’t overcome, but we do have a bigger God.
“I have said these things to you, that in me you may have peace. In the world you will have tribulation. But take heart; I have overcome the world.” (John 16:33)
I’m a living testimony that you can stop watching pornography. It can be overcome. It’s no longer a part of my life.
Truth #5: Pornography must be exposed.
Part of getting pornography addiction help is telling someone. Like with any addiction, you HAVE to tell someone. Once you bring into light what has been in the dark, it loses its power.
Tell someone you trust who Godly, safe, and healthy. Make sure they are of the same gender and can be a mentor/accountability authority in your life.
Pornography is such an isolating sin that it can hold people down for years unless it is exposed and sometimes in humiliating ways.
“For all that is secret will eventually be brought into the open, and everything that is concealed will be brought to light and made known to all.” (Luke 8:17)
God is His great mercy will expose darkness because He wants you free. If you keep this to yourself, it will come out eventually. Its better that it happens on your terms, yes there may be consequence but better to start the process of healing and deal with them rather than experience worse consequences down the line. Remember, the habits you create now will carry over into your future so you want to get healthy now before your pornography addiction hurts someone else.
Truth #5: Pornography hurts people.
Pornography is not an isolated event. People get hurt from these addictions. It goes beyond yourself, your spouse, boyfriend or girlfriend, and whoever else is around you. The pornography industry is an abusive industry.
There is a lie I’ve heard and people use to justify pornography all the time, and that is, “The people on the videos want to be there.” There can be cases of this being true. However, for the most part I don’t believe children grow up thinking, “I want to be a porn star.” Unfortunately, circumstances come in and change the Lord’s will for their life. Hear me when I say, The Lord never called you or anyone into pornography. Not one person.
“For I know the plans I have for you, declares the Lord, plans for welfare and not for evil, to give you a future and a hope.” (Jer. 29:11)
Children, women, and men, yes men too, are affected by this industry in ways we may not even be able to comprehend. So much abuse and sex trafficking is happening. Many are forced through drugs, alcohol, and all kinds of methods to make people comply. People are kidnapped, assaulted, you name it, it’s been done. As you seek pornography addiction help, see pornography for what it is. I pray the realities surrounding pornography will help deter you from seeking it out.
Truth #5: Pornography needs a battle plan.
Eventually people aren’t going to be around and you’re going to find yourself alone with your computer, TV, phone, or whatever device you use to view pornography. Do you have the plans already set in place to help you battle and overcome pornography?
“But he who is noble plans noble things, and on noble things he stands.” (Isa. 32:8)
Planning ahead may save you from falling into it again. Here are some examples of what this could look like for you:
- If you know there is a time, either late at night or when you know you’re going to be alone in the house, when you are the most tempted, remove yourself from all devices, get out of the house, or make plans with Godly, safe, and healthy people.
- Put a filter on your computer so you can safely navigate the Internet without the threat of pornography. For instance, there are filters like www.covenanteyes.com and www.netnanny.com you can put on your device to help block those websites.
- Give your device to your parents/care giver before going to bed.
- Let someone know ahead of time so they can text or call you during those moments to help keep you accountable.
- Think of other things that will keep you busy during that time like cooking or taking up a hobby.
- Load up your device with images of scripture or play worship music.
- Memorize scriptures and/or post them throughout your house or room to help.
- Listen to Christian testimonies of those who have overcome their pornography addiction like the one we have from a guest blogger, Click HERE to read: “Pornography Addiction Help: “The Mighty Addiction” Guest Blogger J. DeOleo”.
- Look at the statistics and facts surrounding pornography to remind you of why you should stay away and not help benefit a business that destroys lives.
- Fast and pray until breakthrough happens and continue to seek pornography addiction help through different resources.
“The heart of man plans his way, but the Lord establishes his steps.” (Prov. 16:9)
“I can do all things through him who strengthens me.” (Philip. 4:13)
Truth #6: Pornography can be forgiven.
The Lord has promised us that when we repent and ask for forgiveness, He gives it to us. Regardless of how far you have gone or how dirty you feel, it is still not bigger than the forgiveness and the work Jesus Christ did on the cross so we can be free.
“If we confess our sins, he is faithful and just to forgive us our sins and to cleanse us from all unrighteousness.” (1 John 1:9)
“Come now, let us reason together, says the Lord: though your sins are like scarlet, they shall be as white as snow; though they are red like crimson, they shall become like wool.” (Isa. 1:18)
Yes, pornography use can be forgiven. You can ask for it for the first and you can ask for it any time you may fall. Keep asking for forgiveness. Don’t give up. Keep fighting to overcome pornography and watch with great expectancy for it to happen.
He loves you so much and when we ask for forgiveness, He will forgive us. Regardless of how far we think we’ve gone, His arms are always waiting to renew, restore, and redeem. Run to Him!
The enemy will have you believe all kinds of lies and deceptions about pornography. The enemy will have you justify it for all kinds of reasons. Pornography is definitely not something to be taken lightly. It is a terrible disease that will infiltrate every area of your life and will eventually follow you into your marriage if you don’t deal with it now.
Sexual purity is a journey not a destination.
Lord Jesus Christ, I pray today, right now, will be the beginning of turning your face away from pornography and towards the Almighty King. I pray for protection over you as you seek pornography addiction help. Lord Jesus Christ, send them the help they need in whatever way that looks like. I ask Lord for You to send Your army of angels to guard them, cleanse their home, and remove all things that are not of You. Let this scriptures be their heart cry to You, oh Lord:
“Turn my eyes from looking at worthless things; and give me life in your ways.” (Psalm 119:37)
We thank You Lord for the Christian testimonies that are already out there, including mine, that people have seen pornography for what it is, they are not bound to participate in it, they have renounced it from their life, and are walking in freedom. We ask the same over the person reading this. I thank You Lord for the freedom You have for them. I pray they will take hold and run towards You for all healing and restoration from pornography and whatever else is plaguing them in the area of sexual purity. I pray all of this, in the Mighty Name of Jesus Christ, amen!
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